In light of the recent passing of Hugh Hefner, the robe clad founder of Playboy magazine whose empire sparked controversy a-plenty, we thought it was an apt time to drop this little baby.
ADVICE FROM MUM
In times of need, RECKON Mag thinks there’s no better person to turn to than Mum. It just so happens that a mate of ours, Jordan, has the greatest Mum ever. Coby Koster is a legend; she’s sweet, she’s Dutch, she cares for the Earth, defends Indigenous rights and she also happens to have been a Playboy cover model circa 1984. She raised two boys, and juggles modelling, acting and professional caring for the elderly ‘til this day. She’s your pseudo Mum of all Mums to play a quick round of Question Time with.
How did Playboy happen and what was the experience like?
It was a lot of fun. I was one of the fortunate ones that worked solidly through the 80’s. I came from geriatric nursing so was pretty grounded. We had to have a good work etiquette and just be a nice person to be around. The snobs usually did not last long. We had to be pretty versatile and work hard with the director/photographer. I remember doing my first cover for Dolly and girls would recognise me on the street and ask for my autograph. I was always grateful for the things that came my way. When Playboy came along I was already established, doing TV ads. I only did the cover, in those days they used models for that.
Mum, what are your top tips for handling money so that I don’t fall over?
** Stay away from temptation/shops: Before you buy something new, check the Op Shop first, and if you actually need it. I have also discovered ‘world’ shops where you buy stuff that helps you support families/villages in poor countries. The Earth is choking with so much stuff that has been bought mindlessly/impulsively that is used for such a short time and then thrown away.
** Leave that credit card at home: (Enough said, this is timely, thanks Mum).
** Go into nature: Go for a walk, ride your bike, breathe the fresh air. It costs nothing.
Mum, what would you tell your younger self?
You are so much more than your body: I longed for love. As soon as I gave myself up for sex, I was thrown aside for their next ‘girl,’ to say it mildly. Don’t give yourself over so easily. Now, I’m 61 (better late than never, eh?) I finally have the courage to take a long break and truly enjoy my own company. I know my true self worth. The next guy has to deserve me ;-).
Value yourself and reach out: Believe in your self worth, your beauty, don’t sell yourself cheap. When you’re feeling lonely, reach out to an elder. Somebody with lots of life experience that can tell you their story and remind you that you have a purpose in this world to make a difference.
How has Mama stayed authentic to herself all these years, and how do you cope when you don’t feel authentic?
In my 40’s I discovered how to fully love, how to take full responsibility for my life, and how to deal with challenging situations. I can’t live without my wonderful girlfriends and of course, my beautiful boys. They really reflect back to me what I need to learn. Every time. They really make you grow. They don’t stand still and nor should you as a parent.
LOVE YA MUM X